Bepis<\/a> attempting to play self-appointed safeguarding officer (babysitter) in our community. Getting involved in the argument Fay was having with SurvivorCulture on top of everything else was less than pleasant. The issues with the SurvivorCulture group lasted into January. <\/p>\n\n\n\nGroup Chat Chaos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Following that, sometime in February, following about two months of history, a topic was raised in a group chat of 20+ people: Sex offender registration. I forget the details, but as many already know, it is an issue I am passionate about. Sometimes, that passion goes a little beyond my control. I tend to be detailed and verbose about issues I am passionate about, not to mention knowledgeable. So, being me, I talked and talked… and Fay accused me of being aggressive. I disagreed, so I explained to her – outside the chat, in direct message – why I cared so much, not understanding that she wanted to just be done with the topic. We got our wires crossed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
She chose to share those three messages in the group chat. This was the first red flag. I ignored it, considering the circumstances, and hoped she might take it seriously. I talked with her a day or two later after giving it time to cool off, and she indicated that because we were not under contract, she was not under any obligation to keep our private conversations confidential. This is a big deal in the MAP community, because it violates trust. Still, I thought she was just still upset about the previous conversation and us missing each other’s signals. I deleted by hand all of my messages. I thought deleting my messages made the strong point that disrespecting privacy is not okay. Text communication leaves a lot to be desired, we are all human, shit happens, let us move on, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Harassing Minors<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
During the month of January, two rather strange (sorry you two, but I need to set the backdrop) teenagers showed up on Twitter, both claiming to be 13, both of which our community initially thought were trolls. As February progressed, we quickly decided they are unlikely to be trolls and started public dialogue with them. One of them was posting somewhat questionable content, the other posting about his relationship with an adult (sexual in nature). <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I did not involve myself for a myriad of reasons. I expressed concern for one of them on two different group chats, after several others shared what had been said about them publicly (or rather, I assume what was being discussed was public information shared by the individual, having not spoken to either of them at length or seen their tweets). Neither situation is something I care to concern myself with, because it is a recipe for trouble for anyone involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Last Friday, March 15th, someone messaged me that the two of them seemed to know each other, and discovered that in the same conversation, that Fay was calling one of them out for inappropriate behavior:<\/p>\n\n\n\n